The Act of Forgiveness

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that- Martin Luther King, Jr.

Forgiveness an eleven letter word, easy to say, hard to do. 

“How do I forgive a man who calls himself my dad but walked out on my mum and left her to cater for us because he has found paradise and solitude in the thighs of another woman?”

“How do I forgive that guy who I gave my all too and even my virginity but he still left me and got married to someone else?”

“How do I forgive that friend who betrayed me?”

“How do I forgive that uncle who raped me at a tender age? And made me a night worker because I couldn’t commit to any man?”

How? How? 
These are some questions you’ll be asked when you bring up the topic of forgiveness. I have heard a lot of stories and experienced it myself, I know how we all react to the topic of forgiveness. Especially when you’re a Christian and the pastor brings up this topic and says “Even Jesus said on the cross, father forgive them for they know not what they’re doing” and you sit there silently pondering on that and asking yourself “Was it that easy?” Like Cece Winans said in one of her songs “It wasn’t easy but it was worth it”.

To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.- C.S. Lewis

Forgiveness is not easy but it’s necessary we learn as humans to forgive. Some days back, I was having a heated discussion with someone and the next thing this person said was “You had no idea how much hatred I had for you” it sounded very funny and shocking to me because at a point, we stopped talking because I needed to move on, but I knew what I did wasn’t the right thing so I came back to apologize not knowing that the person still carry me for mind, life can be really twisted sometimes. Forgiving a whole lot of people has really helped me a lot, it has made my skin glow, made me more happy, made me sleep without no worries. And you may be asking yourself why should I forgive? I’ll give you reasons why you should forgive
1) Life is too Short

You never know when our maker could call us home. You never know the last goodbyes or when next you’ll have that opportunity, do not postpone. DO IT NOW!
2) To set your soul free

Unforgiveness chokes one’s soul, you know there’s something you ain’t doing right, it’s always there as a reminder. Let go of the hate and forgive, you’ll be content and happy within yourself that you have done he right thing. SET YOUR SOUL FREE!
3) It is a commandment

From the beginning of time, forgiveness has always been a major factor. We were commanded by God to forgive our enemies no matter what they did to us (MATTHEW 6:14-15, MARK 11:25). If we want forgiveness from God, we should also forgive whoever has offended us.
These are the few reasons why you should forgive, they are so many more but these are the major ones for me. We all need forgiveness at a certain point in our life too….so let’s do the right thing.

It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody- Maya Angelou

 

I’ll like to hear from you my dear readers, what does forgiveness mean to you? What was the major reason why you forgave a lot of people? Pls do not read without leaving a comment because I also want to learn a few things too. Thanks for reading and God bless.

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I’m in a very happy mood this morning, you know why?? Don’t worry, you’ll find out at the end of this post.

So this morning, while I was blending beans for moi moi my mind flashed back to The Wedding Party, call it a revelation. There was this scene in the movie, where Shola Showbowale (Iya Dunni) told her daughter Adesuwa Etomi (Dunni) that she cancelled her Caterers and brought in a local food vendor, she got so angry and walked out of her mum, but there was something I picked out from the whole incident, do you know that after the whole charade, the guests wanted to be served food from the local food vendor and didn’t find the stylish dish attractive and appetizing? (Apologies to those who haven’t seen the movie) 

Two lessons are learnt from this particular scene was:

1) We don’t always get what we want from God because he knows this is not the appointed time for whatever you are asking from him.

2) All things would work out for good at the end.

There are several lessons to learn from this scene, but these two just stuck and I decided to share. I started rating how my relationship with God has been, did I ever walk out on him because I felt he was silent? Or he closed certain doors just to open a better one? Was I close to him like i am supposed to be? These were some of the questions I asked myself and right there I just asked God to forgive me for doubting him and being mad at him for not answering certain prayers. 

I couldn’t rate my relationship with God above 5/10 but this year, that has been one of my goals, to be closer to God and know when he’s speaking and when he’s not. Because trust me, we need God daily, not just sometimes or when we seek something. We need him whenever we want to make the right decision, we need him when we want to go into that relationship, we need him when we’re in despair, we need him EVERYDAY.

So, my dear readers, how would your rate your relationship with God? Is it above my own rate or you’re still working on it like I am? Would really love to hear from you. And also if you have a tip that could help me in my Christian walk, do share it. Thank you and God bless.

PS: I’m happy because MMM is back 😂👅😜 (you didn’t see that coming, did you?)